Motivation is only about movement; you simply must do something even if you have to bribe yourself. Just simply start on anything. I had a caller the other day on a talk radio show I was doing who said she was stuck in a Rut, completely unmotivated to do anything. She had just moved into a beautiful new home and was staring at all the boxes that needed to be unpacked and she was now in her 3rdweek of procrastinating. My advice to her was to just pick ONE box. Not two boxes, just one and only have the expectation that she would do one box. What happens is a physics equation, once we get going, another one will almost like magic start to unpack itself. You see for most things in life, it’s not the doing the “thing” that is the problem; it’s getting to doing the thing that trips us up. It’s not exercise that keeps us away from exercising; it’s getting to the exercise. Writers will tell you the same thing. It’s not writing that seems to be the problem, but it’s every other thing that gets in the way of you sitting down and writing that gets in the way.
Are you finding yourself stuck in an endless loop of inactivity, depression, and crankiness? Has the winter weather beaten the spark out of your normal upbeat flame? Are you angry at the world, the banks, executives getting outrageous bonuses, while the rest of us try and figure out one other way to mix hamburger with another shape of pasta??? OK, maybe it’s just my anger towards the banks and the idea of facing another package of Hamburger Helper. It is time to stop spinning your wheels and cursing the mud! Digging your way out of this rut is possible – and the way to do it may be closer than you think! Look at the steps below – one of them just may give you the inspiration – or kick in the butt – to break this cycle and start you down a happier more energized fork in the road.
So what do we all end up doing, we hover. Stay just where we are, because where we are is not that bad at all. Well that’s what we tell ourselves now isn’t it?
Some quick tips to climb out of the ruts we are in:
1. Change how you see what’s going on around you. This is called your attitude. Take a few minutes to examine the frame around yourself that allows you to see your life as it unfolds in front of you. The parts to our frames are our upbringing, our cultural backgrounds, our judgements, our belief systems etc. All these frame how we experience our day to day lives and situations.
2. Get moving physically. There is probably nothing more powerful than you going out and moving your body, with the only intention of moving your body. The best nutrient you could ever put in your body is Oxygen. So by getting more O2 moving through your body more often, you will not only shift how you physically feel, but better, you will shift how you mentally feel about yourself.
3. Stop waiting to be rescued; Oprah probably isn’t going to call… Now don’t get me wrong here, because I keep hoping from a small corner of my mind that she will find out how amazing I am too, but she won’t want to chat with those of us who are just sitting around waiting to be rescued anyways. She wants to connect with folks who are making changes in the world. So while you wait for the phone to ring, get off your butt and be the change you want to see.
4. Do something this year that contributes to making the world a better place. One of the best energizers that I have done for myself this past couple of years, has been working for a charity that rescues girls in Nepal from Contract Bonded labour. We get them out of these awful situations and get them into school. By doing something for someone else other than yourself you get completely re-inspired. I can’t urge you enough to find a cause that you have some passion for and get involved. You won’t regret it.
5. Find a Personal Accountability partner of group. Be honest with yourself and if you need someone to keep the momentum going for you, then find that person or group. We are all more committed to our goals when we have a buddy who calls us up and says, “Hey are we on this morning?” If you want to start your own group or get together with a partner, I have a wonderful book for you. I wrote a manual on accountability without the guilt. www.lindaedgecombe.com/store.php It’s called “Guilt Free Accountability”
My slogan with the manual was …..
“Don’t be Cranky, be a BAG! Bold, Adventurous and Gutsy”
Here’s to being a BAG in 2012
Let me know what you think about how you get yourself out a rut with all that’s happening these days.
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