Where does your attention go when your buttons are pushed? I believe it is my job to make people a bit uncomfortable, to rattle the minds of the folks who sit in my audiences and read my books and articles. I want you to notice if you get your buttons pushed. I have found over the years that some of the most effective people I have ever met are just very ‘self-aware’. They notice what they put their attention on. They have the ability to catch themselves in any given moment and step back from the voice in their head and say, “hmm… now that’s interesting. I wonder why that strikes a chord with me this way?”
One of the quickest ways you can re-set yourself towards your best life is to start noticing how you are in more situations every day. Notice how you feel and know that how you feel, brings on more of how you feel. So “Just notice what you notice”. To start to make small changes, if you want to, you need to catch yourself in those moments and rationalize with yourself. Yes, that means get a bit logical. Ask yourself “On a scale of one to ten, how important is this to me? Really?? What we are talking about here is basic self awareness. (Knowing how you are and feel in various situations.) How do you navigate through your work day, at a party or in front of your boss. How do you respond when your in-laws show up or a friend stops by your home unexpectedly. All of this awareness will give you insights on yourself and then the opportunity to respond differently if you choose to.
Awareness is the first step in the creation process. As you grow in self awareness, you will better understand why you feel what you feel and why you behave as you behave. That understanding then gives you the opportunity and freedom to change those things you’d like to change about yourself and create the life you want. Without fully knowing who you are, self acceptance and change become impossible.