Stopping Self-Sabotage, Starts with Self-Care

Simple Suggestions to Motivate You to Take Better Care of Yourself

I never truly understood the importance of self-care until I started to ‘unravel’ and deep dive back into depression.  During this unraveling, my therapist at the time, insisted that I start some extreme ‘self-care’  but I had NO idea what that even looked like and  I can’t actually say that I’ve ever put an importance on it.  I would get my hair done every 6 -8 weeks.  For me it’s only when most of my life stops working, that I think about ‘self-care’ It’s easy, to forget that you need to be able to rejuvenate – or over time, the well intentioned selflessness will turn into resentment, anger and feel like a chore because you are so tired and so empty. I have learned that I cannot show my husband the love and care he needs if I haven’t spent time for myself. I have learned that I cannot be the mom and mentor I need to be for my two young adult daughters when I am tired and pissed off.  (please tell me I’m not the only one)

Taking care of ourselves, not just in hygiene but in our soul and sanity, is essential when fostering relationships with others, because in order to be the best you can be and give to others, you need to be able to have something to give.  I call this serving from the saucer,  make sure your tea cup is so full, it’s overflowing to your saucer and serve from there.   As an added bonus to my transition to my (3rd Act) moving towards the idea of retirement or ‘what’s next’,  I needed to remind myself to create some space to take care of me.   So here is a list I continue to go back to, to purposely spend time caring for myself – which isn’t selfish, but at the end of the day, actually essential and makes me a better positive influence,  friend, mentor, wife and  mother.

  • Re-read a favorite book
  • Diffuse essential oils
  • Take a walk
  • Take an epsom salt bath
  • Light a scented candle a let it fill your home
  • Make a homemade body scrub & exfoliate
  • Colour or write in a journal
  • Listen to your favorite album growing up
  • Make a hot drink with all the fixins
  • Get into bed early
  • Bake something
  • Read inspiring quotes
  • Organize your makeup
  • Cozy up in a few blankets
  • Buy yourself flowers
  • Turn off your phone for a few hours
  • Say no
  • Do your nails or go get a manicure/pedicure
  • Sit in the sunshine
  • Pray/Meditate
  • Treat yourself to your favorite dessert
  • Play with your pet
  • Do yoga
  • Do a DIY project
  • Deep condition your hair
  • Plan a stay-cation
  • Start a gratitude journal
  • Watch the sunset
  • Exercise
  • Watch one of your favorite movies

Let me know how you like to ‘take care of yourself’

Linda Edgecombe

Motivational Speaker,  Hall of Fame Speaker

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Linda Edgecombe
Canadian Speaker Hall of Fame

2 thoughts on “Stopping Self-Sabotage, Starts with Self-Care

  1. I love yoga but need to tell you that I still remember when you came to Vernon and did a motivational talk for Mental Health quite a few years ago at the Vernon Golf and Country Club. You make a difference in what you do but maybe we don’t stop and thank you often enough so want to Thank you.

  2. Linda,

    I can assure you that you are not the only one feeling this way. I am sure that as women we have experienced depression and it is a rough place to be in…You are a smart woman and recognize it when your cup runs over.

    Some women will never admit that they have seen the black hole just because of their pride…As if it never happens to them….I have a saying that if you have never been down and out and exhausted you are not being truthful to yourself and fair to other women….We are part of humanity therefore if we work hard and help people along the way…you will therefore experience depression whether you admit it or not.

    I appreciate your candor, honesty and wish you the very best Linda.

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