When we become parents/ grown-ups/ busy/ distracted, we tend to lose sight of who we really are. Our focus moves to other people or roles, which is completely normal but not good for our confidence in knowing who we really are.
We get so bogged down in all the stuff that feels tedious (a lot of it is necessary, but not as much as we think).
How do we start getting to know us again and what we are all about?
1. Rock out!
Woman and men need music in their lives. When was the last time you danced or sang at the top of your voice to one of your favourite tunes?
2. Move your butt!
You’ve no doubt heard it before that exercising promotes endorphins, the magic hormones that make you feel good. So if you aren’t exercising already, why not? If an excuse like not having enough time pops into your head, shut it down and tell it you only need 20 minutes out of the 1,440 minutes that you get in a day. And if you need to, just move for 10 minutes.
3. Revisit an old hobby or find a new one
Before life got too busy, was there something you enjoyed doing? So many of our hobbies get lost and forgotten (I’m sorta glad I forgot about gymnastics, I’d be in all kinds of pain). The sports, crafts, shows, and activities that you once took an interest in, are still out there. There may even be a convention for them now!
4. Get a life!
Join a social club or a group of people who hold the same passions as you. Don’t know what your passions are? Try a few out. You don’t have to stay with one you don’t like.
5. Go solo
Spend some time by yourself. This could be by doing something simple like taking a bath or reading a book. Or, if you are feeling a bit daring, travel somewhere by yourself. You may meet some really interesting characters and get to know your own capabilities at the same time.
6. Nurture yourself
This is not just about pampering or getting a massage. Let your mind and body know how much you appreciate what they do for you (and it’s a helluva lot). Fuel them with good foods, stimulate them with information and a good rub-down. Take the time out to thank the one thing that will be with you for the whole journey.
7. Perform Random Acts of Kindness and extend gratitude
Being nice to others is another way to introduce happy hormones into your system. Watching the reaction on the face of someone you just bought a coffee or held the door open for, is priceless. Remind the world that you’re grateful for what it sends you too; a gratitude journal is a good place to start – Write down three things you appreciate in your life. If it is hard to find even one, think about the people around you and what they do for you.
8. Phone a friend
Not just any friend. One who likes you for who you are. The kind you feel at ease with and never judged. It won’t matter if you haven’t called them for a while, it will feel like yesterday.
9. Write a letter from your 80-year old self
This letter will be thanking you for all the life experiences and fun you had in your life. Put things in your letter that you have done, as well as the things you have never done but would love to (go as far-fetched as you want).
10. Ease up on yourself
If you are anything like me, you can beat yourself up for some pretty menial crap. Ask yourself: Would I speak to a friend this way? If the answer is no, then perhaps start looking at how you talk to yourself. Turn your words around and speak as though you had your best friend right in front of you (look in the mirror if you have to).
What are you going to do to help yourself realize how amazing you and your life is (or is going to be!)? It’s all about taking small steps out of that comfort zone. It is seriously where all the fun stuff is!